“Learn to love solitude. To be more alone with yourselves. The problem with young people is their carrying out noisy and agressive actions not to feel lonely. And this is a sad thing.The individual must learn to be on his own as a child for this doesn’t mean to be alone: it means not to get bored with oneself, which is a very dangerous symptom, almost a disease.”—Andrei Tarkovsky, from A Message To Young People
“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.”—Osho
“But it wasn’t some catastrophic moment that taught me one of the most powerful lessons of my life. I learned that unbelievably awful things can and do happen. In truth, they are not such rare, isolated events. Each of us has a story that would break someone’s heart. Despite the grief and the unfairness of it all, we keep going. There are chores to be done. There are people who still need our care. There is a life to be led.”—Aldra Robinson (via hourae)
“I have this strange feeling that I’m not myself anymore. It’s hard to put into words, but I guess it’s like I was fast asleep, and someone came, disassembled me, and hurriedly put me back together again. That sort of feeling.”—Hakuri Murakami, Sputnik Sweetheart
I want to believe that all the choices I’ve made were for the best. I strive to become a better person than I was yesterday. But this journey alone has shattered my heart. Sometimes what’s best for you isn’t what’s best for your lingering heart.
The struggle between my mind and heart have taken a great toll on my soul. I have lost more than you can imagine, and I want so much to believe that it was for the better.
Why is it that I always felt that the best thing to do was let something go to move forward? What is this feeling still latching onto me? I have become cold. No longer exposed to the warmth I cherished dearly. I am at my worst.
Only at my worst I realize everything that I have truly lost.
“For a long time I wasn’t
entirely sure I wanted to
put myself back together,
because letting go of the
sadness would mean I
had to redefine myself.
And sometimes, I still feel
like chasing the darkness,
because I don’t exactly
know who I am without
it. I realised I made a
home out of something I
should have never let in.”—wtm
“I go through phases. Somedays I feel like the person I’m supposed to be, and then somedays, I turn into no one at all. There is both me and my silhouette. I hope that on the days you find me and all I am are darkened lines, you still are willing to be near me.”—Mary Kate Teske
“You realize you are not alone, right? No one in their twenties has life figured out. It’s okay to be a mess. You’re living.”—Things my therapist told me today that almost made me burst out into tears.
“Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention, when ten other people are asking for it. Intimacy is the person always in the back of your mind, no matter how distracted you are.”—